Up’s and Down’s

Monday 28 March 2011: 4 years 6 months on … Advantage CBD

I have written much about taking the hand that you have been dealt and making the most of it. It’s not always easy, and as much as I try to be positive, there are the times that one battles; there are the days that one says “Why Me?”, there are the moments when you feel like throwing in the towel, the mornings when it appears easier to just pull the blanket over your head and stay in bed and let the tears roll down your cheeks.

“Do I really have to face another day?”

Last week, I wrote about reading the book “Miracle on the River Kwai”. It is when I read about and meet people who are able to take on life’s challenges and turn the proverbial lemon into lemonade, that I feel guilty about wanting to throw in the towel.

I have received so many messages from strangers who have either read this blog or listened to the radio programme – they keep me going and I am so grateful for the inspiration that I receive from them. 

We have a little boat with a 15HP engine that we keep at St Francis Bay. It’s called RUSK and it gets its name from when I lost my job in 2002. We said at the time that when life gives you a hard rusk to chew on, it’s just best to dunk it and turn it into something more palatable.  

This morning, I have come across two pieces of writing that give me something into which I can dunk my rusk:

Firstly, there is The Bible.  Whatever one’s views of this Book may be or where It comes from, I am never ceased to amaze how much it contains between its two covers. It carries all the messages, life lessons and support that so many other books have been written about and which really makes them seem so redundant. It’s almost like the Reader’s Digest summarised anthalogy of Life’s Lessons and how to Live Life!   

And just when I need It most, It turns up exactly what I require … God’s way of talking to me today when I need to talk:   (from Faith for Daily Living – see my website www.edlunnon.co.za)


“Then Esau took his wives, his sons, his daughters, and all the people of his house, together with all his cattle and … possessions, and went away from his brother Jacob to another land”.  Gen 36:6 GNB
As the plane taxied towards the runway the captain came through on the intercom to welcome the passengers on board. He finished by saying, “They say life is what you make it, and, if you don’t make it, well that’s life”.
Esau had been on the wrong end of a raw deal early in his life. He was so bitter about it that he set out to find and murder the man responsible – his own twin brother, Jacob.
He failed.
But over the years he worked hard, used his brains and prospered. He could have allowed the early setback to make him miserable, resentful and defeatist. He could have developed a “victim mentality” and spent the rest of his life complaining about how badly done by he had been.
He didn’t. He rolled his sleeves up and made the most he could out of the situation. In the process he became strong, wise, successful and magnanimous.
If life has dealt you a bad hand in any way, do what Esau did. Put it behind you and get on with the task of picking up the broken pieces and putting your life together again. Only go one better than Esau and put your faith in God as well. Always remember that God comes to you out of the future and he has surprises up his sleeve for you. Let Christ the carpenter fashion a new instrument out of you and use you for his glory.
Prayer thought:  Lord, do your repair work on me and direct me as you think fit.
Secondly, I read the following article in a back copy of The Times. It is written by Prof Jonathan Jansen, Rector of the Free State University in Bloemfontein.
I guess I’m breaking the copyright rules, but here it is – it’s too good to miss:

Down’s girl makes spirit soar

A young person who never allowed her disability to hold her back is an inspiration to us all

Mar 16, 2011 10:32 PM | By Jonathan Jansen

Jonathan Jansen: I have sat in audiences where I have listened to and interacted with Edward Said, Jurgen Habermas, Oprah Winfrey, Nelson Mandela and a half-dozen Nobel Laureates in the sciences.

Jonathan Jansen
Jonathan Jansen

quote ‘I need dreams, just the way you do’ quote

But never before have I heard a speech with the intelligence, insight and compassion of a Down’s Syndrome girl who came to my office three days ago. This is what she said:

“As you can see I am a person with Down’s Syndrome, which means that I have one extra chromosome in every cell in my body. My grandmother’s friends wanted to pray for me to become ‘normal’ but my mother asked them rather to pray that I would receive the support to reach my full potential as a Down’s Syndrome person.

“I always knew that I was different. My mother explained to me that the reason why I have more difficulty studying and doing things is because I am a person with Down’s Syndrome.

“I wondered why people admire Nelson Mandela. When my mother explained that he was in jail for 27 years and stayed positive and loving, I immediately identified with him. Sometimes I feel as if I am in the jail of my own body because I cannot always say how I feel and many people talk to my mother about me, but not to me, as if I am invisible or cannot speak for myself.

“I learn new things every day and sometimes feel sorry for myself because I cannot get married or leave the house in the same way that my sisters do. I know Gustaaf, my Down’s friend for the past 12 years, will not be able to look after me. He cannot look after himself.

“He cannot even send me an SMS, even though I tried to teach him one whole afternoon. So I have decided to get married in heaven one day, where we will all be the same.

“I need dreams, just the way you do. But I adjust my dreams to my abilities.

“That was one difficult thing about going to a school with only ‘normal’ children – you have problems fitting in. So I started to ask the boys whether they wanted my extra chromosome and, because they could not understand what I was saying, they left me alone.

“My stepfather tried to teach me to drive, but I am too short. When my feet touch the pedals, I cannot see, and when I sit on cushions, my feet cannot reach the pedals.

“I received a Grade 10 certificate before leaving Martie Du Plessis High School. In my last year at school, I received a prize for the highest marks in biology and I received the highest honour of the school for drama accomplishments on National level among ‘normal’ learners.

“After leaving school I went to the Motheo College, a technical college, and was also the first and only Down’s Syndrome student to be accepted there.

“With the grace of our dear Lord, a lot of hard work and an ulcer because I stressed so much, I passed the N3 course, which equals ‘matric’, and after that I passed the N4, N5 and N6 courses. The N6 course is the highest qualification at the college. I was awarded the Education Diploma in Educare, in May 2009.

“When my mother and sister received their degrees, I started to dream about wearing a robe and mortarboard and walking across a podium. When I did eventually walk across a graduation podium all the people in the City Hall stood up for me. I was also awarded a special prize for being the first Down’s student to receive a National Diploma. That was the most amazing moment of my life. I looked at all the people and saw my mother and sisters crying.

“I am so happy to work at Lettie Fouche, a special school for learners with learning problems, as an assistant in the pre-primary classes. I enjoy every day and I help the teacher to prepare her lessons and to stimulate the learners.

“Vanessa Dos Santos of Down’s Syndrome South Africa asked me to ‘open’ the international conference for Down’s Syndrome in 2012. She also asked me to be on the International Board for Down’s Syndrome.

“I live among these people . me, a girl with Down’s Syndrome, a condition that makes people abort their babies and lock them in institutions or at the back of their homes so others can’t see them!

“May you also be blessed with happiness and a heart full of compassion for those in need.”


And so, I may not be soaring yet, but I’ll get there soon!