©2013 Edward C. Lunnon
Monday 11 March 2013: 6 years 6 months on …
Physical: Deuce / Mental: Advantage ED
Our Super 15 rugby franchise, the Southern Kings, was born into this region in a tempestuous sea of politics. In the lifeboat they now occupy, they now meet the storms of the other 14 franchises, the rugby supporting communities of three nations and a wild political arena of lions (no puns intended!)
It’s now sink or swim time!
Two weeks ago they beat the Western Force of Australia in their opening match. Last Saturday they narrowly lost to the Sharks of KwaZulu-Natal. I was at both matches and my grateful thanks to Brendan Kelly and the EP Powerboat Association for inviting me to join them before and after the game at their wonderful facilities in the shadow of our magnificent Mandela Bay Stadium. (Parking places at R200 for the season right there at the stadium are available by contacting Brendan on 083 458 5721.)
The Kings team has engendered a new spirit in the inhabitants of this, the poorest of the nine provinces of South Africa. Whatever the future holds, the present euphoria must not be allowed to dissipate.
Mentally, they must stay on top. It’s like fighting life, illness, disappointment, disaster, financial ruin and whatever …
Life is rarely simple and straightforward and prosperous and happy. If it is, it isn’t for long.
There are ups and downs of all kinds, new innovations and the rapid discarding of obsolete items. There are economic swings and stock market crashes, wars, assassinations and elections. We live in a world of hazard and difficulty.
We have to put our heads down and plough our way through it all. We have to remember that unexpected things do happen – both good and bad!
Life unfolds, sometimes with adversity, always with hard work, and occasionally with undeserved fortune.
Life is a strange mixture of joy and sadness; hope and despair; health and sickness; and success and failure.
So, however hard things might be, it is important not to give in to despair.
Live without regret! I try to do so and some days are easier than others. I find I am so busy just trying to live life every day that I forget why I am living at all.
I do have some regrets and I wrote about some of these in my last blog. But I also need to let go of them!
Here some ways, suggested by Alex Blackwell, of ensuring that when your last day arrives, you can look back on a life that mattered:
(On your marks (1 – 10), get set (11 – 20), go (21 – 30))
- Avoid the someday syndrome – tomorrow is not soon enough!
- Take responsibility for your life and live every moment. YOU own it!
- Take an honest look in the mirror – start now!
- Acknowledge your reality. Change what needs changing and heal what needs healing.
- Know your truth, listen to your inner voice and your inner wisdom.
- Be thankful for what you have. Gratitude opens your heart wider to receive even more.
- Be your own best friend – enjoy the person you are.
- Perfection isn’t required and mistakes are welcomed.
- Don’t waste time living someone else’s life.
- Think differently to find what brings you the most happiness, peace and purpose.
- Ask for what you want and believe that you are worthy to receive it.
- Flush out all the BS – the Belief Systems that tell you that you are too old or too young, or that you are not smart enough or too damaged!
- Transform negative thoughts into positive beliefs.
- Let go of negative attachments and past mistakes – including all your regrets!
- Face your fears – you can’t avoid them and pretending they don’t exist won’t make them go away.
- Believe you CAN be the best in yourself. You can!
- Become the person you want to be. Step outside your comfort zone, claim your voice and realize your worth.
- Make time to follow your desires.
- Love what you do. If you don’t, begin moving in the direction of what you are passionate about.
- Look forward to your journey and not just the destination. There will be potholes and digressions along the way.
- But keep moving forward (even when life is hard).
- Savour each moment – it’s the only one guaranteed.
- Walk your path at your own speed and in your own way. It doesn’t matter how others are walking their paths.
- Smile more – it’s a simple act that can help you through life’s most challenging situations.
- Forgive more – yourself and others.
- Love more and share your love.
- Be kind to others.
- Take chances – you will never know what might happen!
- Pain is inevitable – suffering is optional.
- Seek counsel, advice and friendship when you get stuck and can’t see where the path is taking you.
(Thanks to Alex Blackwell, the Bridgemaker, for the 30 Ways to Live)
Be the King in your Kingdom. It’s hard work, but then being a King is hard work.
However, it has its rewards and ensures that your life counts for something.
In the final analysis, “thine be the kingdom” – and you get to sing “Regrets, I HAD a few, but then again, too few to mention.”
Watch spectator fight at S15 rugby game between Kings and Sharks by clicking on the link below: